Whether it’s taking our first steps as a toddler or doing our first load of laundry in a college dorm, our growing autonomy can be a source of both joy and fear. With the independence college brings, we are held accountable for our choices and actions in new ways that have ramifications for ourselves and our bodies! The pressure to be perfect in an instagrammed world, to live up to the expectations of elders who have made sacrifices to give us opportunities or to tie our self-worth to our academic achievements can be a very heavy load in a vacuum, much less in a brand new academic and social setting.
Dharmic values of self and community well-being, non-harm, discernment, moderation, developing equanimity, balance, etc., can help us find ways to give ourselves the space to make the mistakes we need to make in order to grow, as well as the self-care that allows us to protect ourselves. Remember that the mark of adulthood is not just independence, but also knowing when to ask for help.